Should You Live With Your Boyfriend?

Sep 26th, 2008 | By Sexy Snob | Category: Sex, Love, Relationships

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should you live with your boyfriend There comes a time in your relationship when the question of cohabitation comes up. Whether you have been together forever or just started dating and just can’t live without one another, here are some pros and cons to sharing the same bed every night.

Pros
You get to see each other every day. Since you are in love, it makes sense to want to spend every moment with each other. You get to cuddle before bedtime, share the events of the day, and have meals together. It becomes a wonderful daily gift to be able to wake up with your significant other every day and be able to spend quality time with them.

You save money. Sharing anything cuts down on costs. From rent or mortgage to groceries to bills to cable, you no longer need two of everything. There are great financial benefits to living together.

You really get to know the other person. There is no other way to see what they are really doing until you live with them. All the idiosyncrasies, the cute routines, and little habits will be revealed, and you share a sense of intimacy like no other. Really take pleasure in the little things that you share together, as no one else will be able to comprehend or share the same secrets that the two of you will create over time.

Cons
You have to see each other every day. It’s not as easy to have your own space anymore, as this space is now a shared area for the two of you. Make sure you each find time to yourselves outside of work and relish those quiet moments.

You really get to know the other person. The farting, leaving the toilet seat up, needing reminders to do the dishes, and that awful scratching he does in the morning can no longer be hidden under a different roof. This is when everything is exposed, and you may either love it… or hate it. Be sure to be open minded and realize that you also have some strange things that he will find weird, and learn to accept each other for who you are.

You get stuck. Once you live together, there is a huge sense of commitment without knowing what will happen. Some people end up doing great and marry eventually, and others live together for a long time and end up splitting apart. Do not get trapped by your living situations. If you know the relationship is not working, you have to be strong and separate. Living together makes it ten times harder to split up, especially if you have a mortgage, children, pets, or other joint obligations. However, put your happiness first and get out of it if it really is not working. Also, some people end up being so comfortable living with their significant others that they don’t even need marriage. Why marry when you have all the benefits of marriage without the whole legal issue? Again, it is all entirely up to the two of you to discuss your needs and find something you can agree on.

So before making the big leap, have a serious discussion about where the relationship is headed. Moving in together is a pretty huge commitment, and the next step may include marriage. However, if you don’t see that, then don’t do it.

What do you think? Would you live with your boyfriend?

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